**This is a post from a member of the Freelancers Union community. If you’re interested in sharing your expertise, your story, or some advice you think will help a fellow freelancer out, feel free to send your blog post to us **here.As freelancers, we often have to walk the tightrope between pleasing our audience and holding true to our artistic or professional vision – it’s presumably why they hired us in the first place, after all. Especially for creatives, criticism comes with the job. In fact, one good argue that criticism is the natural response to art.Critic’s words have power: not only does your audience listen to them, but the impact they can have on the artist’s psyche can make or break a career – if you let ‘em. As in all things, the key to processing critical feedback, good or bad, is with balance. As artists, we have to be open enough to allow criticism to take us in new directions and to higher heights, but we also must be confident enough to know who has the final say when it comes to our work – us.When I receive criticism, I use a few different filters to help me determine whether to follow the critic’s line of thought and see where it takes me in my work, or tune out the schmuck.1. Do you respect the critic?When you’re debating whether or not to take criticism to heart, try stepping away from your reflexive emotional reaction and ask yourself – do you really respect the person criticizing you?Do you respect and admire their work? Do you generally respect their opinion? Do you find them thoughtful and perceptive?If the answer is yes, you may indeed want to closely consider their perspective, and find out what you can learn. It might not take you anywhere and compel you to change anything, but if a mentor, a loved one, a respected fellow artist or a trusted friend raise an uncharacteristic eyebrow at your work, it’s worth taking some time to figure out why.But if you don’t respect the person criticizing you – if they’re a rival whose work you can’t stand, a parent who never really understood you anyway, or some friend from college you’ve just grown apart from – why stress over their feedback?Sure, occasionally these types to get a crystal clear view of a weakness in your work and jump on it with glee (you’ll know it when this happens), but more often than not they’re just seeking out unkind things to say. Don’t let their thorny words get their hooks into your sweet, sensitive little artist’s soul.Join Freelancers Union (it’s free!)Become a member2. Seek out people whose opinions you DO respect.Does their opinion actively affect you?When we run into unpleasant feedback, it’s easy to feel like the answer to this question is “YES, OBVIOUSLY IT AFFECTS ME, I HAVE BEEN SWEARING AND THROWING THINGS AROUND THE ROOM FOR HALF AN HOUR.”Your emotional reaction may indeed be justified – and more importantly, you can’t help how you feel! But don’t wallow in self-recrimination, if you can help it. Does this criticism actively affect you?Is the person giving you criticism a client? A potential client? Are they someone you’ve entrusted to help you: a mentor, a teacher, an advisor?If they’re NOT one of those people, you can dial down the urgency of your emotional reaction. If their criticism has no power in your life than the power you give it, then take control of the situation a decide whether you can use the feedback productively. If the answer is no, move on!3. Does their criticism help you grow?Here’s a hint: the anonymous Internet commenter who wrote that your article “suCKz!!1!” is not good for much… except raising your blood pressure.While it seems that the internet has made everyone a critic, all it’s really done is unleash a whole lot of trolls. Learn to discern between trollish behavior aimed at undermining you right where it hurts – no, not there! I mean your insecurities.That’s right. Trolls have a super special skill for taking note of whatever it is that’s discomfiting you that day: an errant cowlick, the fact that you’re single, or a stupid typo that you failed to catch. As artists, vulnerability and imperfection is the salt that flavors our work, but it also leaves us open to people who would like to bring us down.Remember, dear artist: There are irrational, cranky, angry people out there in the world – people who do not like dolphins, or cookies, or the cast album of Hamilton, or any number of things that are pretty empirically excellent and awesome. When you encounter criticism that’s intent on tearing you down, realize that you may be dealing with one of those people.Heck, even a rational person having a perfectly lovely day may just dislike some of your work… and that’s okay!When you’re struggling with whether or not to believe criticism, ask yourself if it’s likely to make you grow – if it can contribute in any real way to your work. Is it thoughtful, incisive, and worthy of reflection? Does it give you options to explore? If it DOESN’T, chalk up the experience to “character-building” and let it slide off your back.Ultimately, criticism is only productive if it can help you produce. If it doesn’t come from a respected source or help you to improve, let it just be noise. You don’t have to listen!Kate Shea lives and works in New York City, where she consumes an inordinate amount of Sriracha daily. You can catch up with her on Twitter at @katerone.
Transfers Arsenal January transfer news LIVE: Alexis’ family in London ahead of exit Goal Last updated 1 year ago 23:52 1/13/18 FacebookTwitterRedditcopy Comments(0) Transfers Arsenal Premier League Goal brings you all the latest news, rumours and deals related to the Gunners as the January transfer window heats up Alexis’ family arrive in London ahead of Arsenal exitThe family of Arsenal star Alexis Sanchez have arrived in London ahead of the Chile international’s expected departure from the club, Goal can reveal.Manchester City still lead the way in terms of capturing the former Barcelona ace, but Man United carry an interest too.Get the latest on January’s biggest story right here! Editors’ Picks Lyon treble & England heartbreak: The full story behind Lucy Bronze’s dramatic 2019 Liverpool v Man City is now the league’s biggest rivalry and the bitterness is growing Megan Rapinoe: Born & brilliant in the U.S.A. A Liverpool legend in the making: Behind Virgil van Dijk’s remarkable rise to world’s best player Spurs drop interest in Arsenal target MalcomArsenal’s hopes of landing Malcom have received a boost after Spurs cooled their interest in the Bordeaux man, reports the Daily Star.As reported by Goal, the 20-year-old is seen as a top target at Emirates Stadium in the January window, as Arsene Wenger plans for life without Alexis Sanchez.And the Gunners seem to be in pole position, with their rivals having dropped out of the race to sign the Brazilian. ‘Mourinho risks Alexis custard pie’Manchester United’s “gamble” on Alexis Sanchez surprises Paul Merson, who feels Jose Mourinho is risking a “custard pie” if the player ends up at arch-rivals Manchester City.The former Arsenal forward told Sky Sports: “It’s a big gamble what Jose’s done with Alexis Sanchez, by going ‘I want Sanchez’. Because if Sanchez chooses to go to Man City, that’s a real custard pie to Man United.”Read the full story on Goal.Arsenal expect Alexis exit but hopeful on OzilArsene Wenger concedes that Alexis Sanchez is likely to leave Arsenal, but he remains optimistic regarding a new contract for Mesut Ozil.The Gunners have seen speculation surrounding two key figures cast an unwelcome shadow over their efforts in 2017-18, with Manchester rivals City and United ready to pounce if the exit door is opened.Read the full story on Goal.The €37m star who could replace AlexisWith Alexis Sanchez’s departure from Arsenal now only a matter of time, the search has begun in earnest for his replacement.Cristian Pavon, the Boca Juniors striker making big waves in Argentina, has emerged as a real target for the Gunners as they look for a successor to one of the finest talents in the Premier League.Goal explains why the €37m-rated talent could be a perfect choice for Arsene Wenger.Arsenal end David Luiz interestArsenal have ended their interest in signing Chelsea defender David Luiz as his wage demands are too high, reports the Daily Star.Arsene Wenger was open to raiding a London rival for the Brazil international, but his search for a centre-half will now shift elsewhere.Van Persie set for Feyenoord returnFormer Arsenal and Manchester United striker Robin van Persie is set to leave Fenerbahce to complete a return to Feyenoord, according to AD.The Dutchman began his senior career with the Eredivisie club and looks as though he will now be returning having struggled for game time in Turkey during the 2017-18 season.Arsenal join chase for RafinhaArsenal have joined the likes of Inter and Celta in pursuing Barcelona midfielder Rafinha, according to Sport. Ravaged by injuries, Rafinha has been made available for transfer at Camp Nou as he seeks more playing minutes. Both Inter and Celta are keen to strike a loan deal in January, and with Arsenal now in the picture the player will have no lack of options.Wenger plans to stay until 2019Arsenal manager Arsene Wenger has insisted he is still committed to the Premier League club and has no plans to leave before the end of his contract in 2019.Get the full story right here on Goal! West Brom set Evans transfer deadlineManchester City and Arsenal target Jonny Evans has been set a deadline of just over two weeks to decide his future by West Brom, according to the Daily Mail.The former Manchester United man has seen his name linked with some of the Premier League’s biggest clubs in the current window. But he will have to make up his mind by January 28, or his club will veto a move expected to be worth around £35 million. Arsenal want Martial in Alexis dealArsenal want Anthony Martial included in any deal that would take Alexis Sanchez to Manchester United, according to the Daily Star.Gunners boss Arsene Wenger wants a replacement before he allows Alexis to leave, and he is hopeful Martial can be that player.United are reluctant to let Martial go, however, though they would be willing to include Chris Smalling in the deal should Arsenal be keen on the centre-back.No Alexis bidding war, says WengerArsene Wenger has said there is no bidding war between Manchester City and Manchester United over Alexis Sanchez.The Frenchman was tight-lipped over the future of the Chile international but did not deny that approaches had been made.Get the full story right here on Goal! Mourinho refuses to rule out Alexis moveManchester United manager Jose Mourinho is not ruling out the possibility of a move for Alexis Sanchez.The Arsenal forward has been widely expected to join Manchester City, but the Red Devils have reportedly swooped in with a late move for the 29-year-old. Get the full story right here on Goal! Did Benzema snub Arsenal & Chelsea?Karim Benzema turned down two offers to leave Real Madrid in the summer, with Arsenal and Chelsea having been interested, according to Don Balon.The Frenchman apparently has no interest in moving to England and wants to remain with the Liga giants, despite frequent links with Tottenham striker Harry Kane.